It can be difficult to leave behind a situation, but embracing the "next" is vital for progress. Giving yourself permission to process the sadness is necessary , but resist lingering in the former times https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N4FBtGP7zSs&list=OLAK5uy_kaqfjK_D00GAl1qeI8R1YmIE36j-RCLho&index=1